Conversation Mistakes Men Make by Bobby Rio
Today I want to talk about the importance of creating a "sexual vibe" with a girl QUICKLY.
I put the quickly in capital letters for a reason.
Too many guys think "first, I'm going to show her what a nice, funny, interesting guy I am..."
...THEN I'll try to create some sexual attraction.
WRONG WRONG WRONG
Because when a girl meets you she immediately tries to place you in one of four categories:
1. Creep (she's just not into you, and wants to get away from you as quickly as she can.)
2. Potential friend (she's thinking "Oh, he's nice, he's friendly. I don't mind talking to him.")
3. Potential Boyfriend ("this guy has boyfriend potential")'
4. Potential Lover ("I'm getting horny... I can imagine having sex with guy. I'm feeling a weird desire I don't usually feel this soon.)
Here is where most guys mess up.
You present yourself as "boyfriend material."
It seems logical right?
I'll show her all these great qualities I have and she'll think "he'd make a great boyfriend."
- oh, he likes to travel
- oh, we both like to do yoga cool
- oh, he's got a great job
- oh, we have a similar sense of humor
Now, here's the giant flaw in that strategy.
None of that makes her want to sleep with you.
And a girl will only make you her boyfriend if she wants to sleep with you.
(sorry, no way around that)
... If she doesn't want to sleep with you, then you get placed in the "friend" category.
And THIS right here is why so many guys continually get placed in the friend zone.
Because they TRY FOR the boyfriend zone.
Here's the kicker...
When a girl thinks "It would be fun to have sex with this guy... even though I don't see boyfriend potential from him..."
THAT is the guy who she usually winds up dating. The guy she was just planning on sleeping with.
Potential Lover First.
Potential Boyfriend Second.
Now, there are certain things you can do to "steer" a conversation with a girl into "potential lover" zone...
...and the sooner the better.
How do you do it?
The important thing about these three steps is that you MUST (let me repeat that for added emphasis)...
You M.U.S.T. do them in this exact order.
If you do it wrong, you'll be placed in the creep zone. If you follow these three steps, you'll easily transition things towards bringing things to a physical level.